讲解人 · Lala
原文
Eye contact, once a cornerstone of human connection, is becoming increasingly rare in our screen-dominated lives.
It’s hard to overestimate the seismic changes screens have wrought in our day-to-day, from the minor to the massive.
Our attention spans, tolerance for boredom, and curiosity about the real world around us have been hijacked by the digital revolution.
I suggest we consider eye contact as an art form.
Great artists — no matter their medium — are tasked with honing their sensitivity to the world around them in order to interpret and reveal it.
But executing is far from simple sometimes.
In 15 years leading a communication training firm, I have helped thousands of people cultivate better eye contact.
To start, try a fun exercise I developed called “Silent Storytelling.”
As the name suggests, you’ll tell a story — but without sound.
Think of it like lip-syncing: you’ll mouth the words expressively, but you cannot vocalize.
The goal is for your audience to fully understand the story, even without hearing a word.
Keep in mind, this isn’t charades; you’re not acting out individual words.
Instead, focus on expressing your narrative as vividly as needed to make it clear.
What you’ll discover is that “good eye contact” comes naturally when you need to gauge their understanding without the help of sound.
Rather than fixating on whether you have “good” or “bad” eye contact, this technique help you tap into the skills you already possess but may not yet be fully aware of.
So, let go of the self-criticism and embrace the fun of improving your communication—one glance at a time.
带着问题听讲解
- 如何理解 cornerstone 这个词？
- 根据文章，为什么眼神交流变得越来越稀缺？
- 根据文章，如何通过练习提升眼神交流能力？
讲解
重点词汇
reflect on
反思，思考；反射，反映
- 英文释义：to think carefully, especially about possibilities and opinions例句：He spent the night reflecting on the failed exam.例句：After the breakup, she kept reflecting on her needs in the relationship.
cornerstone
/ˈkɔːr.ər.stoʊn/
n. 基石，基础
- 例句：In most countries, the family unit is still the cornerstone of society.
seismic
/ˈsaɪzmɪk/
adj. 地震的，巨大的
- 英文释义：relating to or caused by an earthquake搭配短语：seismic activity搭配短语：seismic waves相关词汇：seismology（n. 地震学）相关词汇：seismograph（n. 地震仪）英文释义：having very great and usually damaging effects例句：There are seismic pressures threatening American society.
wrought
/rɑːt/
v. 使发生，起作用
- 相关词汇：wrought 是一个不规则动词变形，动词原型是我们熟悉的 work，但属于较为古老或文学化的用法，在现代英语中不常见。近义词：bring about近义词：cause
day-to-day
/ˌdeɪ.tuː.ˈdeɪ/
adj. 日常的，每日的
- 词性拓展：day-to-day（n. 日常生活）
attention span
注意力持续时间
- 相关词汇：span（n. 一段时长）相关词汇：lifespan（n. 寿命）搭配短语：memory span
hijack
/ˈhaɪˌdʒæk/
v. 劫持，控制
- 例句：Two men hijacked a jet travelling to Paris.
medium
/ˈmiː.diəm/
n. 媒介，手段
- 例句：They told the story through the medium of dance.
hone
/hoʊn/
v. 磨练，提高；打磨
- 例句：The bone had been honed to a point.
sensitivity
/sɛnsɪˈtɪvɪti/
n. 敏感性，灵敏度
- 相关词汇：sensitive（adj. 敏感的）例句：She admired his sensitivity to others' feelings.
interpret
/ɪnˈtɜːrp.rɪt/
v. 解释，诠释
- 英文释义：to decide what the intended meaning of something is例句：We all seek to interpret what we hear and what we read.
be far from
远非，远不是
- 例句：The novel is far from perfect.例句：The situation is far from clear.
cultivate
/ˈkʌl.tɪ.vaɪt/
v. 培养，培育
- 例句：Most of the land there is too poor to cultivate.例句：He worked hard to cultivate a positive mindset.例句：The teacher helps students cultivate critical thinking skills.
lip-syncing
/lɪp ˈsɪŋ.kɪŋ/
n. 对口型
- 相关词汇：lip（n. 嘴唇）相关词汇：sync-synchronize（v. 同步）
- 例句：How do I sync my phone to my computer?
例句：Actors lip-synch the singing.
mouth
/maʊθ/
v. 对嘴型
- 例句：It looks to me as if the singers are only mouthing the words.
vocalize
/ˈvoʊ.kə.laɪz/
v. 发声，唱出
- 例句：Most patients find it very difficult to vocalize feelings of shame.
charades
/ʃəˈreɪdz/
n. 猜字游戏
- 相关词汇：charade（n. 显而易见的作假；明显的伪装）
- 英文释义：an act or event that is clearly false
- 例句：Their whole marriage had been a charade—they had never loved each other.
例句：Our family used to love playing charades.
narrative
/ˈnær.ə.tɪv/
n. 故事，叙述
- 搭配短语：a compelling narrative搭配短语：a gripping narrative
gauge
/ɡeɪdʒ/
v. 判定，判断（通常指人的感受）；测量，评估
n. 测量仪器，测量仪表
- 相关词汇：gage（美式拼写）英文释义：to make a judgment about something, usually people's feelings例句：To gauge something effectively requires keen observation.英文释义：a device for measuring the amount or size of something
- 搭配短语：a fuel gauge
- 搭配短语：a rain gauge
- 搭配短语：a temperature gauge
fixate on
固着于，专注于
- 英文释义：to think about something too much and find it difficult to stop例句：She couldn't stop thinking about him and would fixate on every little thing he said.
tap into
利用，挖掘
- 相关词汇：tap（v. 连续轻敲）搭配短语：tap into your potential例句：The movie really taps into deep emotions and makes you think about life.
let go of
放弃，放开
- 例句：It's time to let go of the past and move forward.
